Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
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An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.
‘A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship.’ – John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.
Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.
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Additional information
| Publisher | Bluebird, Main Market edition (22 Aug. 2019) |
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| Language | English |
| Paperback | 304 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 1529032172 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1529032178 |
| Reading age | 18 years and up |
| Dimensions | 13 x 2.1 x 19.6 cm |
by Mauranda Lewis
Loved this book – after realising myself I have an anxious attachment style i was keen to begin working towards healing this. This book has helped me understand why I have been the way I am in certain relationships and provides a neat breakdown of the relationships that thrive. Very handy and worth the read
by Paola
Great to understand your attachment styles
by shiva1
This book was a great starting point to understanding my attachment style and it’s needs. I would highly recommend it to anyone struggling with repeating relationship issues
by Archie
I found the take on Codependency being a myth to be quite jarring and still don’t feel quite convinced. Aside from this the constant she/he was very annoying and just using they would make the ready experience much better. All in all I found the book extremely helpful and will use lessons from here going forward to try and be better in my relationships. Would recommend
by Mia-Louise Connor
It is my humble opinion, this book, this learning would go a long way to resolve a lot of societies issues, if people would only take accountability, and the power to heal themselves back, and stop blaming everyone else.
I have read books about attachment theory previously, and all were enlightening, but this one is the holy grail of relationships.
While it doesn’t prevent trauma’s unfolding for those in the early ‘attachment process’ (because they’re babies right!) it does give those with the ability to read, the capacity to internalise and process thought, to apply the education to our own lives, the power to actually change your life, your relationships if applied. It may take a few metaphorical graze knees to stop falling into the same relationship trappings, but with this book, I am sure if you apply the knowledge, stay mindful of your own patterns, and make sense of others without blaming them, you too will change your life, for a more enriching, loving and harmonious existence.
by Kindle Customer
I learnt a lot from reading Attached and it helped me deeply reflect on my romantic life and see how I could have approached situations differently and more securely in the past. Coming out of a break up, this book has helped me heal myself and recognise my needs in a relationship and I feel like whenever I feel ready to date again I’ll be more equipped in finding a partner who can meet my needs. Although, it can feel confronting at times, I appreciate the general message that attachment styles are embedded subconsciously and it’s not your ‘fault’ for having an insecure attachment style. Focusing on becoming more secure feels like a positive experience and make you feel more confident when approaching dating.
I really recommend this book!!
by Yamuna
I loved the style of this book. It was packed with marvellous insights that I will carry with me. The only reason I can’t give this book a five star rating is because it did not give an equal focus to disorganized attachment as it did to the other three styles. This really upset me because as I made my way through the book I realized that I must have a disorganized attachment style. So I was filled with hope reading what this book had to say about the other styles, but felt let down that the book offered nothing to those with a disorganized attachment style. I would love to read something written in the style and manner of this book about disorganized attachment.
by Amazon Customer
You definitely learn about attachment styles and starting to understand yourself better when you are in a relationship. It is a great book. Highly recommended