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Coming home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up
£16.00
Coming Home to Self is a book about becoming aware. It is written for all members of the adoption triad: adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents as well as those who are in relationship with them, including professionals. It explains the influence imprinted upon the nuerological system and, thus, on future functioning. It explains how false beliefs create fear and perpetuate being ruled by the wounded child. It is a book which will help adoptees discover their authentic selves after living without seeing themselves reflected back all their lives.
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Additional information
| Publisher | Verrier Publishing (17 Mar. 2003) |
|---|---|
| Language | English |
| Paperback | 506 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 0963648012 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-0963648013 |
| Dimensions | 15.24 x 2.29 x 22.35 cm |
by heather robinson
Bought as a gift for my daughter she is highly satisfied with it
by public name
I loved this author’s first book “The Primal Wound” so bought this hoping for more understanding and support. Unfortunately I didn’t find that here. There are places where the information is excellent and insightful but also places where the reader, if they are an adoptee, is being spoken down to by a parent/authority figure using phrases like, “you adoptees” and cites cases of where the negative behaviour of an adoptee “gets old”. Clearly this lady has much experience to draw from yet possibly lacks the compassion of someone who has lived through it. She is also an adoptive parent and I would suggest this could have influenced her stance in that regard. I would have found a more professional take on the strategies and situations which an adopted person needs to navigate to live well in this world more useful and also some resource for how to navigate unhealthy adoptive homes and still come out with a semblance of self-esteem. Sadly not all adoptive parents are loving and kind. To sum up, there is some useful information but the attitude in places is troubling and unhelpful. I would therefore not recommend it to a struggling adopted adult without some words of caution. Although not adoption trauma specific, Complex CPTSD: From surviving to thriving by Pete Walker is a great resource.
by Mrs. K. S. Beastall
Not an easy read for an adoptee but spot on in some areas….well worth reading by anybody connected to the world of adoption – regardless of the success or failure of the adoption there IS a wound that will not heal, to have that acknowledged is refreshing.
by Mary Louise
Nancy Newton Verrier’s “Coming Home to Self” gripped me from cover to cover. I am was adopted at five weeks young. My adopted familly loved and cared for each other very much. Unfortunately my adoption was hardly mentioned and never explored. Nancy Newton Verrier does just that in her book on behalf of every adoptee and other babies and children who experienced seperation from their birth mothers. The knowledge Nancy has gained is fascinating and very very relevant to everyone involved in adoption. The issues here should be read and understood by anyone whose professions influences our society,present,past and future.
by Lynda
Very insightful book.
Good continuation of first book (The Primal Wound).
Would recommend to anyone who has professional or personal interest.
by Yvette Langford
I’ve not yet finished reading the book as I want to take my time with it, but so far it’s given me a lot to think about. So many light bulb moments! Would love to write a book about my adoption story oneday, but know that will never happen. If the author ever wants anymore input for another book I’ll be more than willing to give my views.
by Meecymoo
As a therapist I purchased this book to assist me with my clinical practice. It has a lot of good insight and information. Quite moving in parts but overall a good reference book for people like me but I can see this being an important book for parents of an adopted child as well as the child too.
by david fennell
This is by far the greatest piece of literature I have to date read about adoption. I have had to read it very slowly, highlight & study the book. It has brought massive awareness to the issue of relinquishment from all perspectives of the triad . I really really recommend this to everyone, and especially a must read before any reconciliations if possible. A very practical book, that can be used as a workbook/ tool in helping to heal