The Unofficial Guide to Therapeutic Parenting for Childhood Aggression and Violence
£14.20
“Parenting a distressed child puts us in an extraordinary situation, which demands extraordinary parenting.”
The reasons why distressed children may behave violently can be complex; this book sets out the biological, psychological, and environmental reasons as to why your child may be displaying violent behaviours and helps you develop strategies to reduce the incidence of violence, de-escalate violent situations and repair relationships following incidents.
With the aid of this guide, develop a language to enable children to understand their emotional states in a safe environment. Expertly written by award-winning author, columnist and adoptive parent Sally Donovan and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapist Carly Kingswood; learn how to care for yourself and the children in your lives.
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Additional information
| Publisher | Jessica Kingsley Publishers (21 Aug. 2023) |
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| Language | English |
| Paperback | 256 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 1839970111 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1839970115 |
| Dimensions | 15.2 x 1.63 x 22.9 cm |
by Lauren Collingbourne
This book is for anybody who is a parent, thinking about becoming a parent, anybody who works with children or people who are remotely interested in understanding children all together. I would encourage people to read this book regardless!
Not only are these women insightful, knowledgeable and interesting. They are also REAL and full of compassion and basically offer support through their own experiences and reality.
I am not a person who has experience with violence in children however as a mum of two young boys I gained so much from this book. There are things this book has taught me which I will use at least once everyday in my parenting. I have found it has helped me so much to understand my children more, how to avoid conflict and also be kind to myself. I feel there is something for everyone in this book. If you yourself are a person who has been violent in the past, perhaps you were that child mentioned in the book, it will appeal to you also it’s fascinating! Both authors write beautifully and as a reader I fully connected with them both! This I don’t often find in a book. 10/10! Buy it and read it… you will not regret it ????❤️
by Reader
The book that social workers and families have been waiting for, and it certainly doesn’t disappoint! I am an adoption social worker and longterm fan of Sally Donovan’s work, and co-author Carly Kingswood is a great combination bringing DDP expertise and her experiences as a foster carer.
This is by far the best material I have read on child to parent violence and aggression and will be my go-to resource when working with families facing this issue (and believe mee, there are many). I think that every parent, foster carer and adopter could benefit from reading this book – it is reassuring, practical, digestible and very honest.
This book will certainly help parents and carers dig deeper than traditional punishment and responses, is a great reminder of therapeutic parenting and why we talk about it so much, and a reminder that childhood aggression and violence isn’t confined to “those” families – it touches all echelons of society and all kinds of families. Trauma doesn’t vanish by an adoption or special guardianship order being granted!
A brilliant book and one I have recommended to my team and to a number of families already.
by H A Harris
The best thing about this book is the underlying acceptance that parents are being subjected to aggression and violence by their children. Many parents will buy this book when they are feeling threatened, disbelieved and judged. From the start the Carly and Sally acknowledge those feelings and then provide page after page of support in the form of strategies and explanation. All of which is made more accessible because they have filled the book with their own experiences.
For parents that have been on Therapeutic Parenting training, tried Non Violent Resistance , put consequences in place with limited results etc etc, this is the book that will pull it all together. The kind of book that is great for parents but should then be given to family and friends who find it hard to understand why our children are behaving as they do and why conventional approaches don’t work long term.
For those that need to have a more scientific understanding of the wiring of a child’s brain when neglect, trauma or abuse takes place, the detail is there. But this is interlaced with a real sense of realism, humour and love for our challenging youngsters.
This book is great value for money as I know that I my first read through will not be my last. It will be a great book to dip into when support for specific incidents is needed.
by Smallandred
If you have read Sally Donovan before, you will know that she writes with empathy, humour and real world experience. And it seems that Carly Kingswood does as well! The book is chiefly aimed at adopters and foster carers but I think it would be useful for other carers living with any children with aggressive behaviours.
The book is laid out in easy to read blocks with lots of recap / summary sections This is so helpful when you are living under the stress of aggression. There is a lot of empathy for the child, but also the wider family… I think it is easy to feel shame / guilt when trying to work with these issues and I needed some reassurance personally. There is an acceptance that mistakes will have been and will continue to be made… but that there are alternatives ways of dealing with aggression. There is a really helpful section about siblings (lacking in a lot of other therapeutic books).
There are no ‘magic solutions’ because none exist, but there are specific real-world suggestions.
I suspect I will be reading this book every few months until things are calmer in our home!!!