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Why Can’t My Child Behave?: Empathic Parenting Strategies that Work for Adoptive and Foster Families
£12.80£13.30 (-4%)
Parenting a child who doesn’t know how to be parented is the most difficult job in the world’ This book provides friendly expert advice on how to respond to difficult behaviours and emotions for parents of children with developmental trauma. Each chapter focusses on the common difficulties faced by carers or parents and features quick, applicable ideas with exercises and illustrations. How do you react to a child’s difficult behaviour? How do you deal with your own negative emotions? How do you know when to be empathic? The book looks beyond the traditional punishment/reward strategies and aims to provide an explanation for such questions whilst helping the child in the process. This book will prove to be an invaluable resource for parents, foster carers, social workers and professionals working with children who are adopted or fostered.
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Additional information
| Publisher | Illustrated edition (28 Aug. 2013), Jessica Kingsley Publishers |
|---|---|
| Language | English |
| Paperback | 248 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 1849053391 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1849053396 |
| Dimensions | 15.4 x 1.5 x 22.9 cm |
by Scottie14
I must have for all foster carers or adoptive parents!! I am only part way through this book but already glad I bought it. Children who have been neglected can not be parented the same way as children born into a loving family. You have to start from the beginning. Attaching and enabling them to attach and learn how to calm themselves. Star charts, time out etc I found did not work but have looked for help in what does work. This is a welcome book. I am hoping to learn a lot and dip in and out of it. Buy it you won’t be disappointed.
by Amazon Customer
The most important word in the title of this book is “can’t” as opposed to “won’t” behave. The author explains in detail why traumatised children are unable to behave as other children do and how their early life experience affects brain development. It certainly raises a lot of empathy for such children however I was left slightly wondering “what next?” I do now understand why my adopted son “can’t behave” but I’m still looking for some practical suggestions/techniques as to how to support him, particularly with regards to classroom behaviour
by Mbatch
I cannot recommend this book enough. I am a foster carer of 10 years and a qualified social worker. I have read so many books on therapeutic parenting and attachment, but this is by far the most useful. Every foster carer should read this book.
by Kirstie McCrory
I’ve read several books on empathic parenting, but this has been my favourite to date. It’s very simply explained and the author really explains well why children develop certain types of behaviour. She also offers great strategies for dealing with the behaviours likely to be encountered, such as lying, angry outbursts, difficult sibling relationships and sexualised behaviour. I recommend this book to anyone who cares for children who’ve suffered trauma early in their life. It has given me real insight and confidence.
by ollie
I have bought near enough every book on fostering and therapeutic parenting I can get my hands on, but this book has by far been my favourite. Many books repeat the same sort of approach’s but this is one of the few that also gives many ideas in managing and improving behaviour. Helping to understand the reasoning behind why our children acts/feels like they do, has also been hugely beneficial for our sanity, as it definitely puts everything into perspective.
by Midwife
This is a must have book for anyone that has a child in their care that has suffered neglect, especially from a young age. It describes how the brain works and is formed, it gives you plenty of ideas to try and the reasons behind these. I have already put some into practice for my 2 foster boys. This book will help you to understand what is possibly going on in a Childs mind, I’m convinced this book was written for me!
I would definitely recommend this book to foster carers, but also to teachers and parents that have children that are having difficulties, it gives you some understanding and if you are the caring type and willing to learn, then it can help.
by Mrs R.
I must have bought dozens of books on child behaviour and this is by far the best I’ve read. Empathic parenting is for all children, not just traumatised ones.
If you have ever wondered why the supernally approach doesn’t work for your child, then read this book… the penny will finally drop and you can stop blaming yourself.
I wish I had copies on me at all times to hand out to well meaning folk who suggest a bit of ‘discipline’ is what’s required….
by Scottie14
I’m so relieved I bought this. I’m an adoptive Mum of 2, 8 years in with lots of knowledge, but I had hit a brick wall. I was also feeling overwhelmed with advice from a variety of places, including family who could not understand my TP approach. Our son started having rages which prompted me to buy this book, it has refreshed me and given me new strength. It explains things in real terms to share with friends and family. It makes a complex subject easier to understand. Thank you Amber you are helping us so much. All adoptive parents should be given a copy!